Table for One

This will not be my first solo Valentine’s Day. In fact, I’m practically an expert on the matter--I’ve always been single by the time the holiday rolled around or been with someone who forgot. I’ve never had a romantic dinner, chocolates, or roses. Still, I love the holiday. Maybe it’s because my mom always makes a big deal out of it, making sure that all her kids feel loved. Or maybe it’s just because I am a hopeless romantic.

I’ve been in relationships with people who say “it’s just another day,” and sure, maybe it is, but few people treat every day like Valentine’s Day. I know I’ve never dated someone who did something romantic “just because.” Also, who cares? Why is it such a big deal to have a slated day to tell the people in your life you care about them? Life is too short to hold your feelings inside.

So, as a Single Girl expert on most people’s most dreaded holiday, here is my guide for having a bomb ass Valentine’s Day without a significant other.

Opt for Galentine’s Day instead

From one of my favorite shows, Parks & Rec, Galentine’s is the celebrated the day before February 14. It’s a day to gather with your girlfriends, drink mimosas, eat brunch, and just appreciate each other. Having an SO (Significant Other) can be great, but they also can take up a lot of your friends’ time. So set aside an afternoon and catch up and gossip. Throw the day at someone’s apartment or find a cute restaurant (brunch + mimosas ftw). In the past, I’ve made cupcakes, served mimosas, and helped my besties serve a brunch of bacon and pancakes. And you know what? It was fabulous.

Celebrate being single

Having dolphin-smooth legs is great, but you know what’s even better? Not shaving. Hell, scrap the whole shower idea and take a bath. Bonus points if you put together a face mask and coat your hair in coconut oil while you soak. To make this the best experience ever, put on some jazz music (no romantic tunes allowed, we’re soaking in singleness not self-pity), light some candles, pour some wine, and grab a terrific book. This is you time, and you don’t need no man.

Remember you’re not alone

Odds are, some of your girlfriends are single, too. If, like me, you’re all separated by hundreds of miles, decide to be their Valentine. Make some sweet cards (or buy some from Target, I won’t judge), and send your friends the cards. In the mail. Because you’re an old school romantic and the gesture is sweet. If you have the chance to hop in your car and go see them--DO IT. I promise, you won’t regret it.

Be your own date

You don’t need a SO just to have a nice Valentine’s Day. Order your favorite food, buy a nice bottle of wine (I recommend a good Cabernet), and shamelessly watch some chick flicks. There’s no masculinity-so-fragile men around to complain about the romcom, so watch whatever your heart desires. Pride & Prejudice? Why not?! Hell, take yourself out somewhere and just people watch.

Stay in

You don't have to see all the romantic couples if you don't want to! It's perfectly acceptable to hunker down in your home with take out and wine. That's what I'll be doing. And you know what--I can't wait. I'm even going to buy myself flowers! Because I can.

Valentine's Day is what you make of it. Sure it's easy to be sad--but why not be happy? Celebrate the amazing people in your life, and realize you're pretty damn cool too.